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Wednesday, June 10th, 2009
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10:15 pm - All. Fucking. In.
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Dear Mr. President:
I am writing to you for two reasons this week.
The first reason is that there have still been no open investigations in to the torture that was perpetrated by citizens of this country, with government involvement and approval. Mr. President, that is unaceptable. Ignoring the crimes committed is not hope, sir, it is not change, it is the same thing we've had for eight years. I expect better of you, and I expect better of my government. Cleaning our own house, and holding ourselves responsible for these crimes will go a long way towards making this not only a better country to live in, but a true beacon of hope for the world. We can, and must, do better.
The second reason I'm writing to you is that in the past two weeks, we have seen two huge reminders of the extremism and hate and terrorism that goes on in our own country. I know that as a country, we tend to focus on Middle Eastern and Muslim extremists and terrorists, and in some ways, that's easier. After all, they're not us. But, Mr President, they are far from the only extremists, far from the only terrorists in the world.
The two examples of extremism and terrorism I mentioned are the murder of Dr. George Tiller in Kansas, and the shooting and killing today at the Holocaust Museum. These two events are clear consequences of the hate that preached in this country today. When a medical doctor is dehumanized for performing a legal procedure, when he is called "baby killer" and "murderer" for years on end, when so-called "pro-life" groups and individuals express glee at his death, what other result are we to expect? These "pro-life" groups preached hate, and one of their followers took it to its ultimate conclusion.
And when we allow groups to preach hate against other groups, that these other peoples are not worthy of existence, than they are less than, we have people who take matters in to their own hands and start shooting in a museum.
This, too, is unacceptable, Mr President.
The murder of Dr. Tiller was an act of terrorism. The intimidating and harassing "protests" that "pro-life" groups carry out near women's and reproductive health clinics are terrorism. They are intended to prevent women from accessing legal and necessary services, through the use of fear and violence. It is no different than Middle Eastern terrorists who prevent women and children from going to school, and you could not ask for more clear, textbook-perfect examples of terrorism.
As I said before, I expect more of my country and government. I expect more of you, Mr. President. I expect you to name and denounce terrorism when it happens. I expect you to name and denounce hate speech when it happens. I expect you to lead the efforts in the war of ideas against hate, extremism and terrorism not only abroad, which you have started doing, but at home, too. And I expect you to not give credence to extremist positions by insisting that they are just as valid as others, like you have done in the past in discussions regarding abortion. A position based in terrorism, a position based in treating women as less than equal, a position based in intimidating and causing fear, is not a valid position.
As an American citizen, I should be able to be proud of my country. I should be able to walk down the street without fear. I should be able to see my doctor and tend to my health without being harassed and intimidated, and without having to be afraid that today is the day that another extremist bombs the clinic I'm at, or starts shooting. I should be able to visit the Holocaust Museum, or the Holocaust Memorial in Boston, without fear.
Mr. President, I urge you to take action on these issues. You have said "Together, we can", and offered hope to us all. And I am calling on you to fulfill that promise, and to help make this country as great as it can be, for ALL of its citizens.
Sincerely,
Me
current mood: accomplished
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| Monday, June 1st, 2009
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11:52 pm - Caring for Your Introvert - The Atlantic (March 2003)
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| Sunday, May 31st, 2009
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5:52 pm - Boston Vigil in memory of Dr. George Tiller
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If you haven't seen the horrifying news yet: http://www.boston.com/news/nation/articles/2009/05/31/wichita_police_slaying_at_abortion_docs_church/
I, am upset.
Boston Vigil for Dr. Tiller
Join the Boston community in sharing our grief and celebrating the life of Dr. George Tiller, a true hero for women across the country.
Monday, June 1st 6pm
St. Paul's Episcopal Cathedral 138 Tremont St., Boston Across from the Park St. T stop
Please help us spread the word via email, Facebook, Twitter, and texts. Facebook event: http://www.facebook.com/event.php?eid=88629078374&ref=nf Twitter hashtag: #BostonVigil and #Tiller (this one is attracting some unpleasant tweets, however)
Dr. Tiller was shot and killed Sunday morning while serving as an usher at his church in Witchita, Kansas. Since the 1970s, Dr. Tiller has provided critical abortion and reproductive health care at great personal risk. In doing so, he has saved the lives and futures of countless women and girls across the country. His murder is a tragedy for his family, friends, and colleagues. It is also a tragedy for the women who need his care and for the entire community of health care providers and advocates, and for all of us who believe in a woman's right to dignity and self-determination. Please join us in honoring this great man who truly lived by his motto to "Trust Women."
Thank you, Megan Peterson
Deputy Director National Network of Abortion Funds www.nnaf.org
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| Wednesday, May 27th, 2009
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7:30 pm - PRETTY MUCH THIS:
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| Sunday, May 24th, 2009
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9:07 pm - get me the fuck out of here
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So my return from Texas (pronounced "tay-haas") involves a stop in Charlotte, NC.
Redeeming charcteristics of the Charlotte-Douglas International Airport:
- There is a Cinnabon in nearly every terminal.
Resons why this airport can fuck right off, preferably involving a baseball bat:
- Getting off the plane involved using those stairs built in to the plane door. That, however, is not a problem. The probem is that after doing that, you get to hunt for where you can get in to the airport.
- Once in the airport, there is no visible set of departure monitors. The closest set to my gate was FARTHER DOWN the terminal I was in, around a corner. Because why the fuck would I need to know where my next flight is? Good thing I have a two-hour layover.
- The next set is in the "hub" between all the terminals. Which I also wouldn't have seen if I weren't going to the Cinnabon there.
- My Cinnabon was cold and underdone, and I think I am going to regret eating it.
- Who needs lights? The "hub" area was lit entirely with blue neon.
- This place is closing right in front of my eyes.
- There is an ad for the Billy Graham Library. "No books to check out, just his story..."
- No motherfucking outlets, so I get to post from my BlackBerry. Fuck yeah!
current mood: pissed off
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| Friday, May 22nd, 2009
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1:16 am - Social networks keep your deleted photos | Technology | guardian.co.uk
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| Sunday, May 17th, 2009
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5:59 pm
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What the fuck, Fictionwise. Don't be telling me that the login and password I've been using ALL WEEKEND, because I bought an ENTIRE SERIES OF BOOKS (except for the two you randomly didn't have, wtf) from you suddenly are INCORRECT this afternoon.
Also, Papa John's. We order from you on a pretty freaking regular basis, here. So when your coupon showed up yesterday, with the "We're sorry! Please come back to us! Here's a free pizza!" we decided, what the hell, free pizza, even if it's not the best pizza ever, is still free pizza. So we called and ordered a free pizza. Not only did you take FOREVER to deliver it, and somehow could not find our WELL-MARKED DOOR, you gave us the WRONG PIZZA. Moreover, you have apparently changed the make-up of your cinnapies, and now they are terrible. TERRIBLE.
We weren't previously unhappy with you, but oh, now we are. You'd best not be taking too much longer with our fucking replacement pizza, asshats.
current mood: pissed off
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| Thursday, May 7th, 2009
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3:34 pm - Posted using TxtLJ
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I hate when you're alone in the bathroom, and someone else comes in and chooses the stall RIGHT NEXT TO YOU. There were SEVEN other choices!
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| Monday, May 4th, 2009
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7:48 pm - Link-day
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Womanist Musings, It's all because you are fat.
See also: my chronic sinus issues would go away if I would just lose twenty pounds. See also: Weight Watchers commercials. Ad nauseum.
current mood: awake
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| Sunday, May 3rd, 2009
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12:29 am - BADD - badass, bad news, bad day
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Naturally, I'm writing this post at the last possible minute, although I like to tell myself that I have an excuse: I was dancing. (edited to add, and then I was editing)
Wtf, she's talking about dancing on BADD? Well, yes. Because you see, I can't always dance.
I'm actually in a pretty good spot right now, in terms of pain - I'm not really feeling any. That's not because of any drugs or PT, it's just that the stars aligned and it means my body isn't broken this week. My partner and I joke about it, my broken body, but that's because it's easier to joke about it than it is to confront it.
Sometimes I can't walk. Sometimes I can't stand. Sometimes I can't sit for more than fifteen minutes. Sometimes, I just can't be pain free, no matter what position I'm in, no matter what drugs I take.
The thing of it is, it's not obvious to anyone, usually, that I'm having a bad day. If my sciatica is flaring up, for example, I really fuckin' need that seat on the T if I'm going to make it home without breaking down and sobbing in a ball on the floor of the train. But outwardly, I look healthy (or fat, depending on who you are), so clearly, I don't need that seat, I should stand - standing is good for me! But really, I need that seat.
But I don't LOOK disabled, I don't obviously look like I need that seat, so I get looks in return. I get the dirty looks, I get the rolled eyes, oh, there's the fatty being lazy again. And that brings me to my point here - being disabled doesn't mean you're in a wheelchair, necessarily. There are a lot, a LOT, of invisible differences in ability. And you. don't. know. You don't know what is going on in my head, you don't know what's going on with my body. Likewise, I don't know what's going on with you - maybe you need the fuckin' seat. But you have no way of knowing, just by looking at someone, what their health status is - what diagnosis they are carrying, what physical abilities or disabilities they have. Neither do I. I can't even predict, with 100% accuracy, what days my body will be broken, so there is really no way that I can tell what's going on for someone else without really obvious signs, and even that's a dodgy proposition a lot of times. And it bugs the hell out of me that there are so many people who think they can tell, that they do know what's best for me, that think they know my motives for sitting down on the T, or not lifting the heavy box, or whatever. They don't. You don't.
I don't have a nice, neat ending for this post, because you know what? There's not a nice, neat ending to my body, there's not a nice, neat ending to this issue. There's just day by day, and there are days I'm grateful for what I have, and days when I curse the gods that made me. There are days I dance, and days that getting out of bed fills me with anxiety because oh god I know it's going to hurt. And hopefully, there will be a day when even though I need that seat on the T, I won't have to deal with people judging me for it.
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| Thursday, April 30th, 2009
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11:47 pm - :w-hat"
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So this Bulls-Celtics series, off the hook.
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| Wednesday, April 29th, 2009
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7:19 pm
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NPR has put up an awesome interactive map, so that you can see just where your electricity comes from. It is a sobering experience.
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| Tuesday, April 28th, 2009
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11:29 pm
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Via BoingBoing: Matthew sez, "A while ago iIruined a batch of cupcakes by adding too much baking soda. Rather than throwing them out, I made them dance (a waltz to be specific). Over the course of a weekend, I made a stop motion film of the awful tasting baked goods moving across my table."
< dancegeek>It's actually a Viennese Waltz, but who's counting? You know, besides me.</ dancegeek>
current mood: awake
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| Wednesday, April 22nd, 2009
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11:43 pm - In the "but all you have to do is eat less and exercise!" files...
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A link to a post by Sweet Machine over on Shapely Prose, about how 1,000 calories a day is totally not torture because the government says so!
Also, a post from Junk Food Science about the Minnesota Starvation Experiment.
Please, tell me again about how much I'm overeating.
current mood: cranky
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9:11 pm - Words cannot even express, y'all.
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Some of you may have heard about United's new seating policy, where if you cannot fit in one seat, cannot keep the armrest down, or require the use of more than one seatbelt extender, you are either moved next to an empty seat, required to purchase a second seat, or you don't fly.
I, clearly, think that this is awesome beyond words, so I wrote United a letter about it:
I am writing to voice my strong disagreement with and disapproval of your new seating policy, requiring those overweight passengers who are unable to fit comfortably in your airplanes' seats with the use of no more than one seatbelt extender to either purchase another ticket, be reseated, or kicked off of your flights.
This policy is discriminatory, plain and simple. You are discriminating against women, who are statistically more likely to have wider hips, and thus have more difficulty in lowering the seat rests. Moreover, pregnant women, even in the early stages of pregnancy, are more likely to have normal and healthy weight gain that will make it difficult for them to meet the requirements of this policy.
Additionally, you are discriminating against overweight people. What about all of the tall people, whose knees dig in to the seat back of the person in front of them, or who recline their seat all the way in order to find some modicum of comfort, and therefore impinge upon the seat of the person in front of or behind them? I note that they are not required to purchase a second ticket, be reseated, or not fly, even though they are doing the same exact thing you and a few of your customers are accusing overweight individuals of doing. What about the men with broad shoulders, who can meet your seat requirements, but whose shoulders still impinge upon the seat space of the person next to them? You are singling out a group of people for behavior exhibited by a number of people on your flights, and charging them, rather than anyone or everyone else.
It is also discrimination because it implies that overweight people have an alternative - that they can just lose weight. This flies in the face of scientific evidence to the contrary, which finds that that for the majority of overweight individuals, any temporary weight loss they may experience from a diet or exercise plan is just that - temporary. Weight is as strongly influenced by genetics as height, skin color, risk of heart disease and risk of mental illness are. For a start at looking at this research, I suggest this excellent article from the International Herald Tribune, now hosted at the New York Times: http://www.nytimes.com/2007/05/08/health/08fat.html?_r=1&scp=1&sq=genes% 20take%20charge&st=cse
The alternative you are forcing upon overweight people, then, is to not travel at all - whether because a second ticket is unaffordable, as it is for many people, or because they are denied travel on your planes. And that is no alternative.
Quite honestly, the seats on your airplanes are uncomfortable for a great many people, as they were designed to fit a person of statistically average height and weight. Thanks to the great genetic diversity of the human species, very few of us are that height or weight, and therefore a great many of us don't properly fit in to airplane seats. I'm one of those people - I'm six feet tall. I haven't sat comfortably in an airline seat that I can afford since I was a child. I find it disgusting that United's response to one group of passengers that can't sit comfortably is to charge them double, reseat them if possible (have you been on one of your own flights lately? This is a dubious proposition, at best) or kick them off the flight, rather than rethinking the size and shape of the seats. My six foot tall body is not responsible for the fact that your seats are uncomfortable - you are. I suggest that rather than driving business away with your new policy, you change your seats to be more comfortable for everyone, and bring business back.
Interestingly enough, United sent me a response:
Dear Ms. [Wench]:
Thank you for taking time to express your views about our seating policy. We appreciate your feedback and hope that this letter is helpful in providing perspective on our policy.
I understand that our new policy is a sensitive subject and we understand how you feel. However, we decided to align our policy with all major airlines. Contrary to what many people believe if the flight isn't full the passenger would be able to just have one seat. However if the flight is full or almost full another ticket should be purchased.
Also it is our intention for every passenger to be as comfortable as possible. We have received complaints from many of our passengers complaining that the person seated next to them is in their seat making it uncomfortable for them. Again, it is not our intention to make anyone feel uncomfortable about their weight but to make a slight middle ground for all. You mentioned people being tall, what United did was implement Economy Plus seating which gives the passenger up to 5 inches of extra leg space. So if the person is tall and is usually uncomfortable in our seats they can purchase extra leg space. Again, we try to implement a middle ground. Please understand that we sincerely care about the comfort and well-being of all of our guests and have implemented this policy with best intentions, to help ensure that everyone's travel experiences with United are safe and pleasant.
Regards,
Rayschel Nayden United Airlines Customer Relations
(information about a satisfaction survey here)
This message is intended only for the use of the Addressee and may contain information that is PRIVATE and CONFIDENTIAL. If you are not the intended recipient, you are hereby notified that any dissemination of this communication is strictly prohibited. If you have received this communication in error, please erase all copies of the message and its attachments and notify the sender immediately. Thank you.
I am in fact the intended recipient of this message, so I am absolutely disseminating it.
I will likely update this post later with a coherent response, but for right now, all I have is AUGH and *headdesk*.
current mood: irate
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| Tuesday, April 21st, 2009
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8:21 pm - God Makes Surprise Visit To Local Church | The Onion - America's Finest News Source
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| Monday, April 20th, 2009
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8:48 pm - Fuck this.
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I fail to see why I am supposed to love "shopping", when so many manufacturers refuse to make anything that FITS me properly. Never mind if it's flattering; right now I'll settle for a fucking shirt that fits, from someplace else than Lane Bryant.
Do not suggest to me "Avenue!", as they have managed to make a shirt that is too small in the waist, and too big in the boobs. That, or it's actually too small in the boobs, and since it's not made for anyone with larger than a D cup, explains why you can see down to my NAVEL in it.
Do not suggest to me the "Old Navy!", because I have yet to find a pair of pants that is long enough, or a shirt that buttons closed without gaping, unless it is large enough to look like a tent on me.
Do not suggest to me the "Torrid!" or the "Igigi!", because I do not wear the loud patterns and colors, and have yet to find anything on their site I was remotely tempted to buy.
In fact, don't suggest any fucking stores to me at all, because at this point, I am not interested. I am only interested in the commiseration, and in bitching about the fact that I cannot FUCKING FIND CLOTHES TO WEAR.
current mood: pissed off and fucking sick again
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| Wednesday, April 15th, 2009
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7:31 pm - Bloggin Against Disablism
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Blogging Against Disablism Day is May 1, 2009.
Disablism (or what I usually call ableism) is the idea that those with different physical or mental abilities are less than. It's the idea that people with differing abilities are to be discriminated against, overtly and covertly, it's the idea that some of us are less than equal.
BADD is an internets-wide, world-wide effort to blog for and about equality. I'll be participating this year, so on May 1, you'll see a post about ableism in this space. Perhaps more importantly, lots and lots of other people are participating too.
You (yes, you) can join in. Information about joining is here. Basically, post a comment saying that you're participating, tell everyone about it, post on the day of, and provide a link to your entry. Posts about physical ability or disability or discrimination are welcome, as are posts about mental ability or disability or discrimination.
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| Monday, April 13th, 2009
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9:39 pm
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| Saturday, April 11th, 2009
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10:05 pm
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Thanks for the wedding present, boys :D Maybe we really should get married every year.
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